April 27, 2007
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Small Pesky Dogs
Some people are very much like Chihuahuas. No disrespect to Chihuahua owners… and that Taco Bell Chihuahua was pretty cute…
You have probably met them– they make lots of noise, stir things up, nip at people’s legs, get a good fire going… but when someone turns and snarls, they dash off in the opposite direction, usually ending up between the legs of some bigger “dog,” whom they subsequently expect to take care of the fight they were responsible for starting. “Look! They offended my honor! Defend me!” is their frequent request.
Often these are the same people who have all sorts of expectations of those around them… and get dumbfounded (or even angry) when those in their ostensible “entourage” aren’t just “delighted” to be offered the “privilege” of doing something for the metaphorical Chihuahua. Because… after all… the Chihuahuas of life always seem to be too “something” to do things for themselves… so they “farm out” responsibility and accountability for most of their life to others. And yet… we often feel sorry for them, because they inevitably have some sort of perfectly legitimate issue that “prevents” them from being active participants in their own lives.
They typically make friends easily, because they are often charming and funny… yet they struggle to hang on to friendships, because those around them eventually realize that their issues are not transient (like most people’s) but actually part of an elaborately self-serving paradigm, carefully designed to manipulate, while leaving the manipulated feeling like they are being good samaritans. For example, we give lots of compassion and special attention to a “sickly” person who’s actually only “sick” because it’s a way to manipulate others into “doing for them.”
Perhaps you have– or have had– this kind of person in your life… without really being aware of it. Often the only way to tell is by the way you feel drained, and questioning of your own perceptions, after spending any time around them.
Comments (7)
I had a cat that once brought home the neighbor’s toy Chihuahua, she thought it was a rat or somthing I think………..LOL
I have several people like that in my life. I call them Toxic.
I don’t like Chihuahuas… neither the dog nor the persona. I don’t trust them… and you are right… they are draining. I know a few people like that and I call them ‘manipulative’.
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I was talking with a friend about what sort of dogs we would be. She jokingly said she is like an afghan hound (tall, leggy and regal) but I decided I am more of a golden retriever… I could easily lie around all day being useless but looking lovable
ah, yes. It can be very draining….I have a neighbor now who would drain my life force if I let her. I do what I feel I need to and am able to, I listen when I can, but I cannot get sucked down the drain with her.
I hope you don’t have someone in your life like that!
*hugs* and yes, I WILL have a good weekend. YOU too
~Colleen
thats why i like cats
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Excellent way of describing such people. I’ve known too many.
Who is your Chihuahua? I will lure him/her away with a poison-laced pork chop!
O.O Where did that come from? LOL!
I am too much about empowerment to allow people to cling that tightly. I will give them whatever tools they need to stand on their own and boot them outside to fend for themselves. They can always come back, of course, but I’ll just keep doing it. hehehehe
Hope your weekend is going well, Peter.
I love you…GFW